Each person acquires their own character, but their official roles are designated by chance. You should invite some to your table because they are deserving, others because they may come to deserve it.”
Seneca, Moral Letters, 47.15b
Who you appear to be helps to determine your fate in the moment.
Who you are helps to determine your lasting fate.
Your character is who you are.
Let it be one of Virtue and Kindness.