Any time we’re in a guest/host (Hospitality) relationship, there’s a level of formality to it. An opportunity for connecting arises (“I’d like to have you over to my house for dinner” for example), and you behave badly (you get horribly drunk and make an ass of yourself), you’ve acted badly… but not just on your own, disconnected from others. You’ve behaved poorly in relationship.
Familiarity is good, but it’s the fruit of the process of fostering relationship. When we start the relationship process, it’s just the seed… not the fruit, and you end up becoming over-familiar too quickly. There’s some degree of formality that you have to keep in mind when cultivating relationship. This comes from knowing your boundaries.
When you know your boundaries, you can act with respect in relationship, and be generous while still maintaining the respect-zone that formality creates.
Familiarity is good, but it’s the fruit of the process of fostering relationship. When we start the relationship process, it’s just the seed… not the fruit, and you end up becoming over-familiar too quickly. There’s some degree of formality that you have to keep in mind when cultivating relationship. This comes from knowing your boundaries.
When you know your boundaries, you can act with respect in relationship, and be generous while still maintaining the respect-zone that formality creates.
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