DISCLAIMER: There are occurrences that go beyond personal emotional, social, and tribal hurt that enter into the realm of the law, both civil and criminal. The opinions below are meant to address the aforementioned, and do not necessarily apply to the latter (although what a grand experiment in non-duality healing, along with Truth & Reconciliation that would be).
Some boolean, y'all… dig it.
IF a part breaks in a larger, more complex machine, THEN we throw away the entire machine and get a new one.
Wha…?
Ridiculous, no?
Now, let's take that same idea, and apply it in a different way.
Hypothetical: Person A does something understood as harmful, "wrong", offensive or off-putting to Person B. Person B then deems Person A unworthy and ends all contact with them, moving on to greener pastures with others.
Happens all the time.
Why would we, a people who are all about building relationships in our religious practices, take someone (someONE, mind you… not someTHING) who we have invested time, care, emotions, and connection with, and throw them away? It would be ludicrous to think that we would embrace that model with a THING, but at times, it's a knee-jerk response with one another. Why?
For one, reinvesting in things can be difficult… especially reinvesting in one another. Putting a new part in a vintage car would make sense, because you can't throw it away and get another one. It's unique, rare… special… so, you reinvest in it, and replace the part with care and attention. People are more unique and rare than any THING one could imagine. They have complexities more detailed than gems, and are capable of quality finer than that of any treasure… certainly beyond a car.
So, if we can understand our innate human-worth, we can see why we'd reinvest; however, the throw-away model persists. It continues to appear in our interactions with one another. Why?
Because we're hurt… and hurt is real… and it's real in a way that causes us to feel vulnerable, exposed, tender, and raw in ways that nothing else can… and sometimes when we're in that place of hurt, we protect ourselves by throwing away those closest, those strongest, and those most able to help. We can become snarling, emotional-beasts… unhallowed wights from the darkest corners of the lore. We often mistake the hand coming toward us with care as the hand coming toward us in harm. In this place of fear, it's hard to see truth… it's hard to have perspective.
Now, since we're talking about people here, and not things, there's another independent, sentient being at the other end of the causality-matrix. As much responsibility is on the person hurting to receive validation, and eventually seek perspective, the person who caused the understood harm has responsibilities, too.
What I'm suggesting here is to practice this reinvestment idea within your own relationships, wherever they may arise.
It's a worthwhile practice, step out of our own ego, and take a look down at the totality of a situation, a'la SkyFather… different perspective, not better.
Some boolean, y'all… dig it.
IF a part breaks in a larger, more complex machine, THEN we throw away the entire machine and get a new one.
Wha…?
Ridiculous, no?
Now, let's take that same idea, and apply it in a different way.
Hypothetical: Person A does something understood as harmful, "wrong", offensive or off-putting to Person B. Person B then deems Person A unworthy and ends all contact with them, moving on to greener pastures with others.
Happens all the time.
Why would we, a people who are all about building relationships in our religious practices, take someone (someONE, mind you… not someTHING) who we have invested time, care, emotions, and connection with, and throw them away? It would be ludicrous to think that we would embrace that model with a THING, but at times, it's a knee-jerk response with one another. Why?
For one, reinvesting in things can be difficult… especially reinvesting in one another. Putting a new part in a vintage car would make sense, because you can't throw it away and get another one. It's unique, rare… special… so, you reinvest in it, and replace the part with care and attention. People are more unique and rare than any THING one could imagine. They have complexities more detailed than gems, and are capable of quality finer than that of any treasure… certainly beyond a car.
So, if we can understand our innate human-worth, we can see why we'd reinvest; however, the throw-away model persists. It continues to appear in our interactions with one another. Why?
Because we're hurt… and hurt is real… and it's real in a way that causes us to feel vulnerable, exposed, tender, and raw in ways that nothing else can… and sometimes when we're in that place of hurt, we protect ourselves by throwing away those closest, those strongest, and those most able to help. We can become snarling, emotional-beasts… unhallowed wights from the darkest corners of the lore. We often mistake the hand coming toward us with care as the hand coming toward us in harm. In this place of fear, it's hard to see truth… it's hard to have perspective.
Now, since we're talking about people here, and not things, there's another independent, sentient being at the other end of the causality-matrix. As much responsibility is on the person hurting to receive validation, and eventually seek perspective, the person who caused the understood harm has responsibilities, too.
What I'm suggesting here is to practice this reinvestment idea within your own relationships, wherever they may arise.
It's a worthwhile practice, step out of our own ego, and take a look down at the totality of a situation, a'la SkyFather… different perspective, not better.
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